Why you should NOT relax your ‘edges’

Hi Beauties! 

I’m all about this look. Source

So, I’ve been hearing a lot of conversation about this whole theory of relaxing your edges while transitioning  because it will supposedly make the hair appear more ‘laid’ and easier to manage. 

This has me totally confused because even though your edges will appear a little bit more tamed, the middle of your hair and the rest of your head for that matter is still in the grow out phase and will not match your controlled hairline. 

If you do decide to relax your edges while transitioning or after you become fully natural you will experience breakage caused by the relaxer. Your hairline will eventually get thinner and you’ll have to tame it with gel, or another type of styler. Because the hair isn’t strong enough, it will inevitably begin to break and thin. 

Once your natural texture begins to grow out, how will you maintain the front of your hair to match that curly, kinky texture? It will be almost impossible (even if you try to fake it with a twist out.)

Want smooth edges during your transition? Try some of these things:

1. Eco Styler gel with a scarf

This is one of my favorite tricks in the natural hair book. I try not to use gel too much, but when I do, I turn to Eco Styler and use a finger tip amount and smooth my hairline with it. Then I set my hair with a satin scarf. I leave the scarf on for as little as 2-3 minutes. You will notice a world of difference when you take the scarf off. Hair will be shiny, smooth and most importantly LAID! 

Exhibit A

2. Moisturizing Styler 

If you’re not a gel person; which I know not every one is, try a creamy based styler such as Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie or Hair Rules Curly Whip. Both these products give me the same outcome by using the above technique.

In closing, please do not be tempted to relax your hairline when you start to see new growth. Instead, embrace your new texture, train it and make it work for you. Making the decision to go natural is a tough one, and the process of going natural is even tougher, but you can do it!!! Trust in the struggle… in the end you will be happy that you didn’t succumb to the temptation of the creamy crack! 

Naturally yours,

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  1. February 15, 2012 / 3:32 am

    Great advice. I really don't get why people would want to do that. If you're going to go natural you need to take it as it comes and find alternative ways to get your desired look as you have described.


  2. Anonymous
    June 4, 2013 / 11:25 pm

    Thanks so much! I was about to do it!

  3. Mel
    July 31, 2019 / 4:30 pm

    Loved the info, however, for a lot of 4c, 4b, naturals it is different. Its is especially different for 4c, 4b naturals who live in humid areas on the east coasts like va, nc, sc, ga, fl, etc. No amount of gel and silk scarf can hold for a full day, or even a full work day. I say, it’s your hair and you should do whatever you feel is necessary for you to feel confident and comfortable 🙂

    From what I’ve seen, most ppl are literally only relaxing the very front small hairs on the hair line, and it blends pretty naturally.

    We have to remember not everyone can grow out a full, thick hairline due to genetics, medications, and/or stress. Some one with low vitamin D can have struggles with growing out a full hairline, just by the way vitamin D interacts with our bodies. Many ppl dont even know they have a vitamin d deficiency. Also, ppl with thyroid disease, diagnosed or undiagnosed, can have thinning fragile edges. Just so many reasons why everyone is not able to message castor oil on their edges and wake up with full edges in 6 months. All scalps are different, different hair, different issues. There should be some exceptions made for these ppl when we talk about relaxing. Although we know harsh chemicals exaggerate problems, we still want these ppl to feel beautiful and accepted when looking at it from the view point of the natural hair community.

    Now, if someone is relaxing the entire front section of their head, that’s not the edges, that’s just plain relaxing of the hair. They will have to answer to that for theirself.